February 5, 2018
Imagine a day in the mind of a happy person. What would that look like to you?
To me, it would go something like this:
As I wake up in the morning my first thought would be about how wonderful to start a brand new day fresh and full of unlived experiences. I’d smile at myself in the bathroom mirror and praise God for coffee being brewed. My children would be little again and in need of my assistance to do life together under the same roof.
I would appreciate each and every experience without anything else taking space in my mind. I would smell the freshly cut grass, swing in the swing set, eat the extra cookie and visit more friends; worry less about money and more about visiting fun places and people. Worry less about health and taking more chances, explore more and think less. Think about good, admirable, beautiful, truthful things. Laugh more, walk more, smile and eat more.
I would praise God more, read His word and pray without ceasing. Trust and accept life in its own terms. I would be a better wife, mother, family and friend. I would have more energy feeling light and unburdened.
And when I close my eyes at the end of the day I would feel a peace that only God can give and fall asleep without even realizing it.
I wonder if Heaven would be a little bit like this and so much more than this. Hard to imagine a perfect place with a perfect life. The good news is that I can apply some of these thoughts in my mind right here, right now. By changing the way I think I could change the way I feel and make this life a better place to be.
As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. Proverbs 23:7
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January 30, 2018
One of the definitions of hope is “an optimistic state of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes with respect to events and circumstances in one’s life or the world at large.”
The Bible has plenty of Scriptures on Hope,here is one of my favorites:
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29;11
How do we lose hope? The opposite of hope is anxiety, despair, discouragement, depression, fear, etc…When we align our spirit with God’s we stand a better chance to live a hopeful life. As soon as we take our eyes away from the source of hope and light we begin a slow down hill process that may lead us into despair. It happens so slowly that it is not noticeable until we are in the middle of the storm and wonder how in the world we ended up there.
Recognizing what brings us hope is an important element to have hope. Thinking about hope will take our brains in that direction and open different doors to keep hope alive.
What brings you hope? I would like to hear from you what thoughts, practices, outings, readings, people, bring you hope. Are you naturally a hopeful person or you need to work at it?
I want to share two pieces of advise that are so true and hopefully will help to see a new perspective:
“Anxiety both overestimates risk and underestimates your ability to cope.”
“If you can’t control it there is no point worrying about it.”
Hope will lead you to good places, anxiety and despair will bring us down. Let’s choose carefully and wisely what voices we listen to and grow in God’s love for us.
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January 22, 2018
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7
I have quoted this verse to myself so many times in my own journey with stress and anxiety. I believe in the power of Scripture plus these 2 verses give you homework to achieve the desired peace.
First, he command us to not be anxious but it does not stop there, he gives us a formula to achieve this. He tells us “but in everything by prayer and supplication.” He wants us to pray, not just about a couple of things but EVERYTHING. He wants us to talk to him often and consistently about everything by prayer and supplication. The dictionary defines supplication as “the action of asking or begging for something earnestly or humbly.” This is more intense that just prayer or talking to God. We need to get very intentional about our request AND with thanksgiving. We need to be thankful about, not only our request, but as a way of life. Anxiety has a way to rob the joy and thanksgiving out of us. God wants us to continue to have a thankful heart.
Once we let him know our request in prayer, supplication and thanksgiving then God’s peace will guard our hearts and minds through Jesus. This is a wonderful example of the partnership we share with our Lord, we do our part, he does his.
Peace is the opposite of anxious. Our brains respond by taking us toward what it hears ourselves say. If I am feeling anxious I tell myself “I am calm, peaceful, serene, tranquil, relaxed.” Even if I am not, because, like a GPS, I am typing a destination I want my brain to take me. Hopefully through repetition my thinking brain will convince my feeling brain to believe what is being said.
May I encourage you to think well, truthfully, and expect his promises to be fulfilled?
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January 12, 2018
As this year started I decided to make some additions to my life. I usually deal with the emotional part of us, how the world affect us with depression, anxiety, panic and so on. We created our Relaxation series to teach how to rest our bodies, learn how to deep breathe, think better with truthful thoughts, how to manage our emotions and mistaken beliefs.
This year I want to continue doing the same AND add more spiritual content to it. We are body, mind and Spirit and when all 3 work together we feel better, we function more efficiently and have more strength to live healthier.
In my devotions I came across a prayer that Paul prayed for the Ephesians (3:14-21) that it seems to apply to all of us so well:
“For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in you inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge-that yo may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.”
Would you, in the midst of your pain, failures, anxieties, depression, panic, finances, illness, betrayal, despair and more, allow His power and love to enter in your heart and soul to bring hope and strength, light to the darkness, love to the haters and will you let him transform you completely from the inside out?
Think well, eat healthy, pray and seek Him,
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January 10, 2018
There is no magic pill or cure for stress and anxiety. Once they hit, they hit and you embark on a roller-coaster of emotions that may leave you exhausted, paralyzed, with no energy, confused and scared.
Relaxation techniques, music, spoken word, and progressive muscle relaxation are excellent tools to help the feelings and changes in ourselves. The reason it works so well is because it helps at the feeling level, bringing down the stress hormones that are wreaking havoc in your system. Relaxation teaches to slow down your thoughts, relax your muscles, replace bad thoughts with truthful ones, and have a more positive outlook about your situation.
Other times, especially for those who suffer from anxiety attacks, you may need to discharge all that energy first, be it going for a walk, a run, doing chores or anything that would make you move your body. The stress hormones are the same ones our ancestors had when they were running away from bears chasing them, so their bodies produced all these hormones to help then run faster, fight stronger, see better, etc. Anxiety brings a surge of pent up energy that needs to get discharged. Then, once the energy is released you can benefit from relaxation.
Remember to breathe slowly and steady a few times. Anxious people are known to have shallow breathing which is not helpful.
Playing tricks to the brain seems to be helping many people. Think of a color and look for 10 items around you with that color, or use your other senses: identify a smell, look for a certain color, touch some fabric or object and listen to your surroundings.
But most importantly, learn to get off the ‘stress,worry, fear treadmill’ way of thinking.. It is a habit and habits can be broken. Our distorted thinking triggers stress hormones that cause the physical symptoms in our body. It’s no wonder God told us in Philippians 4:8,
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
January 4, 2018
“Spiritual Freedom in an interior freedom, a freedom of the mind and heart. People who are spiritually free know who they are -with all their gifts and limitations- and are comfortable with who they are. Spiritual Freedom can be described as an acceptance of oneself as historically coming from God, going to God, and being with God.” Kevin O’ Brien, SJ.
There is a lot of truth in the statement above, especially when we compare it to our daily stresses, anxiety, worry, panic, etc. Are we not spiritually free then? I think not. A big part of our being is too caught up with the things of this world and it makes it hard to feel or be free.
Jesus came to set the captives free and He said we are free indeed. How do we connect the dots between His truth and our own anxieties? Even when we use the tools we know, we still can not experience spiritual freedom and peace.
To that end I have started a new devotional this year hoping to help me untangle the continuous war between our thoughts and our spirit. What if we fill our minds with prayer and Godly affirmations instead of defeat and self-deprecation?
I invite you to take inventory to assess how close is your relationship with God right now, and if needed, make small changes to close whatever gap maybe in your way home.
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Blessings your way,
December 28, 2017
The Devotional I am reading offers what I will call “A Message of Hope for This New Year.”
After reading the Scripture of the Day and journaling about it, the author, at the end, wants you to ask for your little graces. Little graces are anything you would like to see the Lord granting or doing in your life, like little extras to help you in your walk with God.
After doing my readings, writings and little graces, I realized I look forward to them with hope and enthusiasm, as some may have been granted, while others maybe in the making.
The purpose of hope lies in praying for more spiritual freedom. We cannot become free on or own, it is God’s gift to us and the more we learn the freer we will become.
Freedom also brings peace and calm to our weary souls, and it is all connected to hope.
I pray this New Year bring you freedom in Christ, hope, peace, grace and calm in your soul.
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Happy New Year!
December 15, 2017
May this Christmas time bring joy, peace, love and as many fruits of the spirit as possible into your life. Speaking for our family, we have had a hard year and look forward to a wonderful 2018.
Stress and anxiety may rear its ugly face during the holidays so I’d suggest you get your tools out of your toolbox and start using them now.
- Pamper yourself. Take nice, long walks to decompress, take hot relaxing baths, nap if possible, listen to soft, calming music, eat healthily, and smile more even if you don’t feel like it.
- Avoid the naysayers. This one may be hard if they happen to be members of your family. Still, you can make an effort to not engage in negative behaviors and not fall prey to their own unhappiness. Repeat your own affirmation to stay focus, for example, “I am loved by the King of kings and Lord of lords,” “I am a child of the living God,” “I feel safe, calm, relaxed and peaceful.”
- Do not overspend. You’ll thank yourself a few days from now when you don’t have a big credit card debt.
- Be thankful. Thankfulness brings such a sense of wellbeing to or soul! And there is always, always, something to be thankful about.
- Keep your feelings in check: choose to not get offended by someone’s thoughtless remark, let it go, rise above it. Pray for them.
- Engage in the real meaning of Christmas, Jesus and His birth.
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December 6, 2017
I decided to write more on loneliness because my last post struck a nerve; many people felt a connection to the fact that loneliness is created by not being around the right people to us, not about lack of people.
We may feel alone while surrounded by others, or feel very connected just knowing someone loves us even though they may not be present.
Another component to loneliness is based on how we grew up with our family of origin. Were your parents available to you? You may have had more needs for connection that what you received, not necessarily making your parents neglectful, simply unaware of your needs. Or when you had a need you were too young to voice it and the need went unmet.
Growing up, whenever this feeling showed up in your life, it made you susceptible to recreate the time you felt lonely as a child, thus repeating the pattern and lonely feelings.
Working on ourselves to feel connected may begin with connecting to ourselves, not so much people around us. The ability to spend meaningful time in solitude and not feel lonely reflects a healthy self bonding, an ability to take care of self, not always depending on others. I am all for healthy connections, and being relationable people. I am talking about the fear of being alone. This fear shows a part of our identity that did not completely grow up to the adult form it needed in order to feel comfortable being alone. Always needing someone’s company may show unresolved anxiety, stress, fear, and other negative emotions that may need attention and processing them my help the negative feelings.
Self-talk is directly connected to our fears of being alone. What are you telling yourself? Are you feeling inadequate? Less than? Afraid of somebody breaking in? Rejected? How can you counter those negative thoughts and convert them into truth?
Negative thought: I am feeling anxious being alone in the house, if anything were to happen to me no one is here to help me.
Truthful thought: It is nice to have a safe, quiet house to work on my own projects, reading, sleeping, etc. I can enjoy the peaceful time and replenish my soul.
It is all in the perspective we choose to focus on. If you are going to try enjoying solitude:
- Start slowly, maybe an hour the first time.
- Add in half hour increments.
- Plan and write down what you will be doing and what you are going to be telling yourself.
- Plan it as a positive experience you are looking forward to.
Let me know what how the experience went for you,
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November 27, 2017
I remember like it was yesterday, that ugly, creepy feeling of being completely alone; but how could that be? I was surrounded by lots of family. Unfortunately, I had learned at a young age to feel loneliness because when I was 13 years old my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and my world, as I knew it, was shattered.
Growing up with a Catholic mom and a Jewish dad had its advantages: we celebrated twice the amount of holidays that most people did. It was a lot of fun growing up and looking forward to the celebrations. I felt safe, connected, secured, and loved.
One night, when my dad was ill there was a big Jewish celebration at my Aunt’s house and my brother and I went while my mom stayed home with my very sick dad. I did not want to go but my mom insisted hoping and thinking that it would distract me and make me feel better. The opposite was true, I wanted to be home with my parents. The joy of celebration was dimmed by my dad’s cancer. I wanted to stay home but I went with my brother as I was told. I remember seeing the many loved and familial faces, my aunts, uncles, cousins, and other relatives that I knew so well and cherished so much, yet, I felt nothing but loneliness being there without my parents.
That particular night I felt the pain of loneliness in a very deep, sad and dreadful way. I wanted to cry and tell everybody that I was very sad and did not feel like being at a party. I felt so alone while surrounded by so many. Just the year before this same celebration had been full of joy and fun just because the two people that meant the most to me at that time were there. The other family members helped to complete the happiness I felt but we all have those loved ones that make us feel connected to others and to this world through them. Their absence makes everyone else near you a reminder of the loss you are experiencing.
If those connecting people were the only ones you had in your life you would not feel loneliness. The opposite is true, if those few were missing and you were surrounded by many others, you would still feel loneliness.
So, what is loneliness? It is the lack of physical or emotional connection to someone that makes you feel safe, cherished, protected and loved. It could be one person or a few.
Let’s be mindful and take good care of those who make us feel safe and loved, they are an integral part of our emotional well-being.
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Blessings your way,